Assignment: favorite things
As an assignment, Sir told me to list my favorite sayings, words, and phrases along with the reasoning behind each one.
“You like that, don’t you?” This was the first phrase that ever stuck in my mind when I heard it in a porn video. It turned me on so much, and I didn’t understand why at the time. I started eating this stuff up like crazy! The tone of voice, especially, makes it what it is - condescending. My partner is being arrogant, honestly! He knows that he’s giving me pleasure, he knows he’s doing it well, and he knows I’m going to tell him yes.
“That’s right…” Again with the condescension. It’s more the way Sir says it than anything else, emphasizing the word “right.” His tone of voice puts me in my place, and the words make it clear that I’m pleasing him. And if I’m pleasing Sir, I’m right where I need to be.
“Bitch.” Name-calling can be so hot. While I will state that I’m a feminist, it’s true that negotiated degradation really gets me wet. Sir using these names reminds me of my place below him, pleasing him, being a tool for his pleasure. I am Sir’s bitch, not equal, during our scenes, and name-calling is an easy reminder of that. The tone of voice, again, is important here, as the aggressive tone behind the speech truly sets the degradation in stone. It reminds me that I am there for one purpose: to be a set of tight fuckholes for Sir. When tagged onto a phrase, mmf…. hot….
“You dirty, filthy little slut.“ Yet again, I’m a fan of name-calling. It’s humiliating. This phrase, often said while I’m licking Sir’s ass or doing something equally dirty, specifically highlights how dirty my desires and actions are. It reminds me that I’m doing things that are extreme for most people, that I am so dedicated to Sir that I will go to such great lengths to please him. And hearing these words from his lips are a wonderful acknowledgement of those efforts. It’s almost a type of shaming, a way of saying, “Wow, look at how disgusting and desperate you are.” But I like it too much ;)
“Shut up and suck my cock.” A quick reminder to stop getting distracted and stay FOCUSED. Secondly, depending on the context, it can be very humiliating. For example, I may be mid-conversation when Sir decides he wants to use my mouth. Interrupting me to say this phrase not only embarrasses me; it reminds me of my purpose. It also gets me very, very wet.
“No.” The first word from Sir that kept me coming back. I was on my knees between Sir’s legs. His cock was out. He made me beg to suck him, and his response? “No.” I was shocked, and unsure what to do at that point. I could, however, feel my wetness dripping down my thighs, and knew I wanted more. HE would decide when I sucked his cock. HE would decide if my begging made me worthy.
“TAKE IT, like the slut you are.” The degradation and humiliation inherent in this sentence are delicious. His forceful tone clearly showcases his dominance over me, while also conveniently reminding me of what I am.
“Good girl.” The second set of words that drove me wild with Sir for the first time. I crave them from Sir. From SIR. That’s important to note; receiving them from anybody else just isn’t the same. These words make me feel Sir’s approval, which I so badly crave.
“Aww, you poor little thing….” Well, here we are - back at my love of condescension and dominance. This phrase gets me wet like crazy. Sir said something like this on our second meetup: I was giving Sir a blowjob and started gagging, and he said, “Aww, is that all you can take?” and grinned. It humiliated me - my skills were not good enough at the time to fully please Sir - but it also inspired determination in me, a need to improve. I had to learn how to please Sir better. There was no other option. I was going to.
“My pet.” The first time Sir called me this, I was thrilled. It was the start of a week that turned into one where our communication increased significantly & I began feeling more claimed and close to Sir. And it makes me feel happy and safe.
“You WILL obey.” Sir’s commands are like water to me - I need them; I thirst for them. This phrase showcases Sir’s dominance while also giving me a confidence boost. Not only can I do this task, but I WILL do it, and I will do it well.
“You’re a fucking slut. My piece of meat. My series of holes to use….” This is when the name-calling is most intense. Usually by now we are deeply entrenched in a scene and lost to the world around us. I am deep in sub space and hyper focused. The degradation brings me in deeper. This makes me imagine a scene in which I’m forced to masturbate while Sir sits there watching, instructing me, calling me names and humiliating me the entire time, but never touching. A constant reminder of my place, these words are always useful tools.
“You’re a fucking whore, my pet. You’re MY whore. And you fucking love it.” First of all, Sir is putting words in my mouth. He’s not asking me if I agree with him; he’s telling me what I am. Sir’s dominance shines through here, along with his pride in ownership of me.
“That little asshole” and “that slutty little hole.” When talking about my body, Sir often uses adjectives like these. It’s condescending. He’s not referring to them as parts of a human being, but rather individual holes, made for his use. Fuck, I love it.
“You are my cumslut. SAY IT.” Sir’s voice is firm. He expects me to do it immediately. There is no saying no when Sir has this tone of voice. It is a command, not an option. Hearing commands from Sir is sexy as hell. The dominance assuages any anxieties I may have, and gives me a goal: complete this task to the best of my ability for Sir.
“You belong to me.” The first time Sir said this to me, I was overjoyed. Obviously, Sir stating his ownership of me makes me happy. He’s proud to call me his, and I’m proud to be his. In the same vein, saying, “Your cunt is MINE” has a similar effect: pride.
“Mine.” This one word has the same power as the phrase directly above - a reminder of ownership. It is well received, especially when said while Sir is holding/pinching my cunt. I feel pride due to Sir’s ownership of me.
--Ginger
